The Genociding of the American Male

Posted by equus on Feb 18, 2025 in Blog

A sad tale to post today. Reflecting on my past and the past of other men who are now my age as I recall them from the days of our youth, it is quite strange n amazing to me to see how many came to bad ends.

• drug addiction
• alcoholism
• dropping out
• poverty
• chronic unemployment
• divorce
• loneliness
• insanity
• suicide

This is the tale of many of my erstwhile comrades whom I grew up with–all men–who seemed to have such bright futures when we were kids.

One obtained a college degree, became a lawyer then a meth addict n died in his 40s. Another completed most of a college degree, dropped out to take a good job when the economy was good, but was then laid off, fell into alcohol and died of exposure on the local version of Skid Row in his 30s. Another got a degree from an Ivy League college and got a good job, but somehow fell into heavy drug use, divorced, n died by his own hand at the age of 60. A good guy, brilliant. Two more fried their brains with drugs while still teenagers, never attended college, n now survive on government support.

One did okay, we touched base just the other day after many years of having drifted apart, tho still mired in poverty after all these years. Another divorced but just remarried, after all these years, at the tender age of 70! Several brothers were thrown into the job market without college because their parents divorced. One just died of chronic poverty at the age of 69 with no access to health care. A second, who had a brilliant mind, spent his life stocking 7-11’s. At least he married n his marriage is holding. A third became a pastor, not married. The other two scrape by as best they can with chronic unemployment. None of  them have children because a single man with a working class job can no longer afford children in modern America.

Several more I knew were attempted suicides, one went insane partly due to chronic marijuana use n was committed. Another was smug n unfriendly to me; when his marriage fell apart he suddenly started calling me as if we were old friends, loneliness in his voice, just wanting someone to talk to. Yet another fell into drugs as a teenager when his parents divorced n he never recovered. Alcohol, pot, n who knows what else ran his life until he too was committed into a chronic drug abuse shelter, never having completed high school, his health wrecked. I once let him live with me and loaned him money so he could find a job. I came back later and found he had broken back into my apartment and was passed out on the floor having spent the money on booze, pot, cigarettes, and girlie mags. I had to send him packing.

Later on, as a lawyer I encountered many such men. I found a guy in a wheelchair living behind a MacDonalds. He had been homeless n broke his pelvis in a bicycle accident. I managed to get him registered with Social Security n helped him get into a Ramada Inn. Then he disappeared. Even the desk clerks claimed not to know where he went. Could he have died at the change in climate n the clerks did not want to advertise the fact? I guess I’ll never know. I also met a guy living in a storage unit in a building, not telling the clerks that he was sleeping in his unit every night.

Question: why is there no organization that can assist young men in the transition to adult life with potential useful guidance BEFORE they fall into drugs n alcohol? Before they make commitments like marriage n children before they are ready? Why are there no services for men while there are large numbers of service organizations for women? What does a man do when he is young, ignorant, naive, confused, uninformed, is faced with huge tasks n responsibilities but has no one to offer friendship or a word of advice? Why are there so many lonely single men who took the bad advice that the single life without family is the way to go and that if you reach your thirties, it’s time to marry.

Throughout history every society ever identified had a male-only society that was designed to help young men learn how to become men, societies that were intended for all men, not just a few cultists or backpackers, n which provided friends n socialization for mature men. The U.S. is the only society known to history that has NO male-only societies for normal men, all such societies having been banished or compromised by America’s pathological feminism that brands all masculinity as ‘toxic’. The result is plain for all to see: among American men an epidemic of drugs, alcohol, dropping out of school, poverty, unemployment, divorce, loneliness, insanity, n suicide. And for some, even gangs.

Maybe the Equus Order can help fill the need to help guide men past these shoals n hidden reefs that lie in wait especially for men who may have internalized the lie that masculinity is toxic, that men must never ask each other for help, that men need no friends.